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Best general tactic for dealing with a judgy/imposing mother-in-law? If I hear "You're doing it wrong" one more time... (Definitely keeping this one anonymous as she'll probably stalking me on here too...)

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Just this.........
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Yes I have had to deal with this many times... eyebrow raising and head shaking and "my children never behaved like that.. or weren't allowed to do that..." insert many different scenarios... One of the unforgettable ones was when my mother in law commented on the tantrum my toddler was having with the really helpful (NOT) comments. "My children NEVER had tantrums!" she said with such venom and visible disgust. I turned and looked at her and said. "(Insert her name here) I don't believe that for a minute, all kids have tantrums, it has been nearly 40 years since you had a toddler I think perhaps your memory is not serving you so well it must be hard to remember that far back!" Me 1 mother in law 0
Anonymous 
Wow!! Good job putting her in her place. Not sure if I'd have the confidence to do that...
Anonymous 
Aaaaah the fun. Does your partner agree that she is being judgy and imposing? If so and the whole thing is upsetting you, maybe they could speak up next time? Although I totally love (and agree with) the "CLEARLY YOU HAVE FORGOTTEN EVERYTHING!" response, if it doesn't even need to come from you, much the better! Good luck and strength to you.
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Leave the kids with her for a day and a night, and see how they get on...
Anonymous 
You can either: 1. reduce amount you see her so you hear less of this unhelpful rubbish 2. In list partner for support she might listen...... you never know 3. Go nuclear as above I wish I had the nerve but my ml would cry and turn it all on me I'm a (insert any word you fancy) I wonder what goes through their minds... are they trying to be helpful and don't realise what effect they are having or do they take pleasure in causing upset, doubt and anger. Ultimately the result will be them not see the grandkids so much.
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Just this.........
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Haha! 😂 That is perfect! Thanks!!

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