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Hey there parents of multiple kids, here's a question for you; What is the ideal age gap between child #1 and child #2? Considerations; sibling relationship, first one potty trained / in nursery / able to hold it's own head up, career, finances, etc

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Emma losing sleep 
I have 2 years 2 month gap between two boys. The elder one is now potty trained but he still wakes up in the night and comes in to sleep with us. It's not ideal but it's ok. I think the age gap works well, the baby is 7 months old now so they are starting to show signs of playing together (really sweet) it can be difficult when the older one has mental break downs constantly as he is at that age but it is manageable! I won't be able to return to work as it will be too expensive for child care so I am going to soon be working freelance, the older kid doesn't get any nursery hours free until September.
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Anonymous 
Goodness. From my own experience, I had them 12.5m apart. Not through choice (we had fertility treatment for no.1) and then another bus rapidly arrived ;-) ours have various health issues which include aversion to food and drink so it's been a nightmare. BUT having lived through this bit (now 16 and 28m)...Will be good to get nappies out the way. We hadn't potty trained but that will happen when it does! Nap times unless they are angels become harder when older - went through a period where one was on two naps and one on one and me and my husband existed as separate entities at weekend since neither would sleep in a buggy for long :-( lots of my friends have 18m differences and experiences have been vast - all hard but some much easier than others - mainly dependent on how both sleep at night and nap out...:-( one thing we didn't have to deal with was sibling issues when baby arrives because she wasn't old enough to be jealous!!
Anonymous 
PS what an essay sorry. And on reflection verbal diarrhoea and distinctly unhelpful. Summary - really depends on your kids!!
Anonymous 
I'm thinking 24ish month gap (hope my employer isn't in this group :p). Seems to be a good age development wise.
Anonymous 
3 years if you're planning to go back to work. Nursery fees are a nightmare so you want to pay for two lots for the least amount of time possible!!
Anonymous 
I'm sure there is no right answer to this and no one really knows what fate has in store... our 2 have a 3 year age gap and it is good because my son was potty trained before his sister arrived, understands why Baby needs various things, he can pass stuff when she needs changing (for example) and can be relatively useful! And they like each other a lot. Bad - nothing bad really, but at times their needs are a bit different.
Anonymous 
Every child and mother is different... There's no "perfect age"
Emma losing sleep 
I have 2 years 2 month gap between two boys. The elder one is now potty trained but he still wakes up in the night and comes in to sleep with us. It's not ideal but it's ok. I think the age gap works well, the baby is 7 months old now so they are starting to show signs of playing together (really sweet) it can be difficult when the older one has mental break downs constantly as he is at that age but it is manageable! I won't be able to return to work as it will be too expensive for child care so I am going to soon be working freelance, the older kid doesn't get any nursery hours free until September.
Anonymous 
Agree with Emma. Seeing the kids playing together is so sweet at those ages and tantrums are manageable. Childcare is super expensive so returning to work can be an issue.
LewisCarr 
Just over 2 year gap here, with the youngest now 2 years old, and the vasectomy 1 year old. The last 2 years have been hell for sleep deprivation, but they're getting better now. The gap is starting to pay dividends. They often play together quite nicely now, and the small one is developing physically very quickly as he wants to follow the big one everywhere. Happy we got the gap right, I think, and happy we have 2 boys. Much win.

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