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Hey, if my toddler starts waking up at 5am should I try and force her to sleep more? She gets in such a frantic mood that it doesn't feel right and nothing seems to work!

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Anonymous 
Hiya - in my v limited experience I wld suggest looking at her total sleep in 24h and then seeing if there have been any other changes in her life and day to day recently that may have contributed to the earlier starts, and perhaps try adjusting things like naps and bedtime rather than forcing her back to sleep (tho you cld try a gro-clock to keep her in her room till you want to get up too!) if she's ready for the day.
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Anonymous 
Hiya - in my v limited experience I wld suggest looking at her total sleep in 24h and then seeing if there have been any other changes in her life and day to day recently that may have contributed to the earlier starts, and perhaps try adjusting things like naps and bedtime rather than forcing her back to sleep (tho you cld try a gro-clock to keep her in her room till you want to get up too!) if she's ready for the day.
Dadah to one 
We've been there. Trying to force a toddler to do anything is nearly impossible. i can't say we have a sure fire solution. For us it turned out to be a phase and our daughter just stopped doing it one day...so hang on in there! however in an attempt to be more useful to you some of the things we tried were: making sure she had a full belly before bed (she was waking up hungry sometimes because she was a fussy eater in the evening); letting her yell for a bit (she occasionally went back to sleep after 5/10mins); leaving her a toy/bottle/comforter in her cot - this wasn't a solution but it bought us 15 precious minutes more.... best of luck
Anonymous 
Hi anon, have you've checked off some potential waking up triggers - noisy room?, sun light getting in early? hunger/thirsty? cold in the morning?
Lisa Tantrum 
There are some really good answers to a similar question in this piece: https://tantrum.xyz/parentingBrain/question/14
Guest 
Thanks so much for the feedback. I think we have ticked off the triggers. I should have said, it seems to be a general sleep issue as she has also started being difficult going down. Recently she has started waking up at 12-2-3-4 & 5. In the former you can normally shush her back down, though sometimes between 3-4 she just decides she is ready to get up. If I take her back to bed with me she will go back to sleep so its not like she actually wants to get up. She just doesnt want to be in her cot anymore. Have tried letting her cry it out. Occasionally works, for a while.Generally she pushed through though. Equally i find if we have given in a few times she starts getting earlier. ahhhhhhhh
Anonymous 
sounds like this is a behavioural piece rather than a physical / tiredness one. ie, she wants her parents rather than she's not tired or being woken up for some reason. depending on your toddler's age and understanding there's things like the gro clock where you can point to it to tell them when it's ok to get up. The suggestion above about transitional objects is not a bad one. Is there something she likes to play with or talk to? perhaps a doll? so that she is comfortable where she is rather than needing her parents to comfort her. Let us know how you get on
Guest 
Thanks everyone will do. Started making sure we arent rewarding her getting up this morning by getting her to sit quietly until 6. No cuddles in our bed or cbeebies, as per Lisa's link. I think it is about behaviour and wanting us (mum) more than anything. Will try some stuff and message back. Thanks again
SofarSofood 
No advice but i'd love to hear how you get on! We've got this issue at the moment. The pre 5am wake ups are a killer. I'm wondering about a Groclock but he's not 2 until July so not sure if it will work.

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