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What age did your kids start getting scared of the dark?

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Let's Ask Livvy 
It is very common at his age when kids are trying to make sense of lots of different thoughts and feelings and it's hard at this age as kids can't always find the words to verbalise how they are feeling or what is making them anxious. It is important to make him feel supported without giving too much attention to this fear. Often the more it is talked about the more the fear is validated. He might benefit from a little night light- but when you introduce it- try to avoid words that link the light the the fear of the dark- so instead of saying "let's switch on your night light so you're not scared/ so it's not so dark". Be more matter of fact "ok night light is on". If he says he's feeling afraid or cries when the light goes off- reassure him but avoid lots of mention of fear/ the dark etc. Just say something reassuring like "you are ok, shut your eyes now ready for bedtime" Fear of the dark is very common and usually does pass quite quickly. One thing to watch out for as he gets older.....kids are pretty savvy at thinking of ways to keep us coming back in just one more time- just watch that he is getting more of your attention at bedtime when he talks about the dark than when he settles down straight away! Any questions let me know.
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Let's Ask Livvy 
It can really vary - being scared of the dark is very common. How old is your little one?
Anonymous 
He is 21 months old.
Let's Ask Livvy 
It is very common at his age when kids are trying to make sense of lots of different thoughts and feelings and it's hard at this age as kids can't always find the words to verbalise how they are feeling or what is making them anxious. It is important to make him feel supported without giving too much attention to this fear. Often the more it is talked about the more the fear is validated. He might benefit from a little night light- but when you introduce it- try to avoid words that link the light the the fear of the dark- so instead of saying "let's switch on your night light so you're not scared/ so it's not so dark". Be more matter of fact "ok night light is on". If he says he's feeling afraid or cries when the light goes off- reassure him but avoid lots of mention of fear/ the dark etc. Just say something reassuring like "you are ok, shut your eyes now ready for bedtime" Fear of the dark is very common and usually does pass quite quickly. One thing to watch out for as he gets older.....kids are pretty savvy at thinking of ways to keep us coming back in just one more time- just watch that he is getting more of your attention at bedtime when he talks about the dark than when he settles down straight away! Any questions let me know.
Dadah to one 
faking nightmares always worked when I was a kid - got you 30 mins TV time downstairs every time 😜 📺 . Livvy's very comprehensive answer pretty much covers all the points I'd suggest - best of luck! let us know if it works

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