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Our baby is 14 weeks old and I thought sleep was going relatively well, or as well as it can. She has gone from not going to sleep at all until 12:30/1am to now going down at about 9:30/10pm and sleeping until 4:30/5am when she wakes for a feed. She will then sleep for another couple of hours. The last three nights everything has totally changed. She is waking every two hours to feed and takes an hour to do so. She is also majorly chatty and seems to have discovered her voice. This means she now lies in her cot shouting. I'm struggling to get her back to sleep. She finds it hillarious. We are exhausted and running out of ideas. Is this common? I feel a bit swamped by information about sleep routines and sleep training and worry that we should be doing something different to improve sleep habits but how or what I have no idea. We have tried a regular bedtime routine but it feels as though the earlier she goes down the worse our sleep has become during the night.

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TheParentandBabyCoach 
It sounds like your lovely little one is going through the sleep regression that hits around this age - so rest assured it will probably improve, but may take a few weeks. It is really normal. Just try and encourage her to settle and not go to her unless you really have to because she is crying, so that you don't interrupt that natural process too much for her. It can be annoying to have a wakeful baby in the night, but as long as she is not crying - she is ok! Depending on how long it lasts, you might want to think about whether she is still feeding enough in the day time - does she need tanking up a bit more at the end of the day? Also, if she can't fall asleep on her own, this is sometimes the age where it starts to show, so having a little think about that too. There are lots of options to gently teach a baby to settle on their own without leaving them to cry. Do contact me if you need any more information!
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Fran123 
Sounds like you have a very happy baby ☺️. Casting my mind back to when my daughter was that young her sleeping behaviours changed every 2 weeks. So much is going on so fast. There's a classic 3/4 month sleep regression which is to do with babies switching to light/deep sleep patterns (like adults). What you describe is almost textbook. It's a phase and it's healthy and you're doing nothing wrong. She may be able to get herself back to sleep if you leave her for 5-10 minutes and it sounds like she's happy enough in her cot. People also talk about dream feeds but you're essentially doing this already (so she's not really feeding but you are acting as a soother which is why it takes so long).
TheParentandBabyCoach 
It sounds like your lovely little one is going through the sleep regression that hits around this age - so rest assured it will probably improve, but may take a few weeks. It is really normal. Just try and encourage her to settle and not go to her unless you really have to because she is crying, so that you don't interrupt that natural process too much for her. It can be annoying to have a wakeful baby in the night, but as long as she is not crying - she is ok! Depending on how long it lasts, you might want to think about whether she is still feeding enough in the day time - does she need tanking up a bit more at the end of the day? Also, if she can't fall asleep on her own, this is sometimes the age where it starts to show, so having a little think about that too. There are lots of options to gently teach a baby to settle on their own without leaving them to cry. Do contact me if you need any more information!
Mike Tantrum 
'She finds it hilarious. We are exhausted and running out of ideas'. That must be infuriating! I hope sleep expert Heidi's (TheParentandBabyCoach) comment reassures you about this; that it's common and will probably improve. Let us know how you get on. If you continue to struggle you can contact Heidi here or via her site (link is in her profile).
LizJ 
Thank you all. I will definitely follow your advice and good to have some reasurrance that it hopefully is fairly normal.

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