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My 8 month old is waking frequently in the night and crying in her sleep. She seems very unsettled but during the day is fine (although teething) but it can take hours to get her back to sleep and it's exhausting. We co-sleep. What could this be?

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TheParentandBabyCoach 
This could be a sign of teething (light sleep in between cycles sometimes mean they do cry out), it is often common in babies who can't settle on their own, they come into light sleep and tend to let out cries between cycles depending on how they settled. Can you give us some more information?
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TheParentandBabyCoach 
This could be a sign of teething (light sleep in between cycles sometimes mean they do cry out), it is often common in babies who can't settle on their own, they come into light sleep and tend to let out cries between cycles depending on how they settled. Can you give us some more information?
Fran123 
Poor you - it must be extremely tiring. Is your daughter actually waking up or crying out in her sleep? I may have misunderstood. While noisy - if she's not awake do you need to actually settle her back to sleep? if she's fully awake then trying to teach her to settle on her is key .... Something similar happened with my first and we had to take what felt like a mean step and leave her by herself for a while until she worked out how to settle on her own. best of luck.
Fran123 
'on her own'
SleepFairyDee 
Fran has a really good point - if she's not actually awake, you don't need to do anything. Some babies are noisy sleepers and can seem to be making quite a fuss in their sleep. If you try to quieten them down, they can then wake fully and it's difficult to resettle them. As you are co-sleeping, it is harder to ignore her if she seems unsettled. You could also be disturbing her if your sleep cycles are in line with hers. It's tricky as co-sleeping can sound like it's the best way for a baby to sleep but it can actually give them quite disturbed sleep, which is a shame as it's such a lovely idea.
Katy Furber 
Yes. Sometimes they just make a lot of noise whilst resettling themselves. Are they in a cot? If so I'd advise just trying to ignore it for say 5 mins. Hard to do if you share the same room. If you can move them to their own room now might be the time.
Anonymous 
We co-sleep because she still feeds every 2 hours. She falls asleep feeding and if I pick her up and move her she wakes up and cries, and can take ages to settle again. I have tried leaving her to see if she stops crying but most of the time she wakes up fully and again takes ages to settle. It's so tiring! She is quite a clingy baby and doesn't like to be put down for naps.
SleepFairyDee 
It sounds like it might be time to work towards getting her to learn to self-soothe and put herself to sleep for naps and nights. As you're co-sleeping you will probably want to do it gently, so the first step would be to get her to stop feeding before she falls asleep - I find feeding in just a nappy helps - and then patting or rocking her to sleep. And then working towards doing less to get her to sleep and eventually leaving her to fall asleep alone. At 8 months she should be able to go through the night without feeding if you've got her routine in the day right. But honestly, this is SO difficult to do if you're in the same room, let alone same bed. (Having taught thousands of families what to do, I've recently had to do it with my 9 month old and I couldn't do it with him in my room. But it worked quickly once he was in his own room. No more night feeds at 7.5 months and sleeping through by 8, unless there's something wrong.)

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