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Ben Tantrum 

Hi all - just had a second child - whoop whoop 🎉🎉🎉 #TwoUnderTwo 😱 . Newborn Freddie is a being an angel (I'm sure things will change) - the biggest challenge is stopping him being mauled by his older sister (she does it out of love but doesn't quite understand the word 'gentle' yet) - as you can see Freddie is lucky to have both eyes! I'd love all your tips on managing a toddler with a younger sibling. Huge thanks. Ben

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Celine Bell 
Congrats! I did two under two and it is so worth it. Horrendous at times, but mine are such good friends now (mostly) and entertain each other. Gorgeous pics x
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Ben Tantrum 
Just wanted to share the mini-series .... makes me laugh every time i see it! 😂😂😂
Ben Tantrum 
poor Tess - the fury on her face at not being allowed to play with her new toy!
Mike Tantrum 
The last pic is my favourite. So much drama in that shot! Even better than that "Manchester night out renaissance" photo. Did you ever see that?
Celine Bell 
Congrats! I did two under two and it is so worth it. Horrendous at times, but mine are such good friends now (mostly) and entertain each other. Gorgeous pics x
Guest 
So many congratulations!!! Sending loads of love and hugs to you all and a squeeze for little Freddie Anya xxx
Ben Tantrum 
Thanks @Celine @Mike @Anya. I'm hoping they will entertain each other ... soon! Freddie isn't up to much at the minute but what are you supposed to do if there's just one adult, the toddler is running rampage and your hands are tied with the newborn? Is there some knack to this?
Guest 
The only way to do it is to wear the newborn. If your toddler is happy to be distracted by a box full of intriguing stuff like empty loo rolls, spatulas, dried pasta (or just regular toys obvs/CBeebies for as long as they will stand it...) Pinterest is really good for easy toddler distraction things but sometimes it means a whole load of mess for 5 mins peace so you can change a nappy. But with toys/stickers/a toddler briefcase full of little books you can buy some newborn time here and there while toddler is having some sensory play. But for me the main thing I remember was simply putting my newborn Freddie in a sling pretty much always and getting on with running after the batshit crazy toddler. It was the only way to get hands free and vaguely keep on top of said Bscb. It will get easier and become more normal. It's just bonkers while you're adjusting. Breathe. You'll be fine xxx
Guest 
That was from Anya ☝🏻☝🏻☝🏻Not sure why I'm useless at signing in properly...
Ben Tantrum 
Haha. Thanks Anya (you can change your profile by clicking on your name / logo image). You can also see a bit more about other people by clicking their profile. Some really good tips there. I'm going to have get a really good sling. The current one is rubbish and Freddie is hanging like out the bottom half the time with his face strapped to my stomach... I also like the idea of a toddler briefcase. Tess still wants your input on everything but she's getting better at playing on her own.
Guest 
Argh just lost a long message. Basically- Maurice didn't start playing on his own until he was about 3 and a half so it's a bit annoying but sadly she will want your full focus and input for a while yet. Try and incorporate her a bit into newborn stuff: ask her to pass the wipes, etc. roleplay with toys with changing nappies and feeding. Involve her in what youre doing with the wee one. Basically newborns are really boring for her. Although once they start doing stuff then they become more interesting but also more of a threat so different emotional issues come up then. but this briefcase thing was a velcro fastened little box of 5 sticker books with a handle, great. Also backpacks that she can fill with her own stuff are also a good idea. The close caboo sling is apparently good? I haven't tried it but have heard good reports. I had a wrap sling but to is a bit of a faff to put on.IT WILL GET EASIER

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