I've just found out my daughter has been involved with the bullying of another girl at her school. Absolutely shocked and distraught and not sure how to deal with it. We have sat her down and spoken to her about why it is wrong, but I'm not sure what to do to keep it up, and also whether I should speak to the other girl or her parents to apologise. Has anyone been in a similar situation or have any advice?

Dialogue and open-ness is the way to go. Yes talk to the other girl's parents and if it's at all possible, get the two of them to sit with each other and talk (with a mediator - experienced volunteer if at all possible) so that the bullied lass can explain how she feels. Brutal but useful. If she doesn't want to, you could invite her to write it all down, then sit down with yours and go through the letter together? So sorry this has happened, but you're obviously a very sensible Mum which will make an enormous difference as to how this pans out. Talking. It's all in the talking.

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