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Help! I have an 11-month-old who, no matter what we do, wakes at 4am. We know it's not something in his room / our house / street waking him up as he does it in hotels and other houses. We've tried later bedtimes, earlier bedtimes, blackout blinds, offering milk/water upon waking and (a limited amount of) controlled crying. Any suggestions?

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Anonymous 
My now one year old woke up between 4:30 and 5:30 am every morning for 3 months until she was 11 and a half months old. When she woke we gave her a bottle and she slept until 7 or 8. Until one day, she just grew out of it. Let it ride, they'll figure it out.
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Ben Tantrum 
Not sure I've got a definitive answer to this. Our daughter woke up repeatedly at 5 and 5:30 for a long time and then one day she slept till 7 so it could be just a phase thing.... sorry. Other thoughts are: when you're trying out different arrangements be aware you probably need 3 days to break a routine - ie, they'll wake up at the routine time even when you change one variable.
Ben Tantrum 
It could also be a hunger thing - are they getting enough food to tide them over?
Ben Tantrum 
One final suggestion from me - we left a soother in our daughter's cot (dummy or empty bottle) for her to suck on when she woke up. This allowed her to get back to sleep without us intervening. We'd hear her wake up, yell a couple of times, find the soother and then blissful silence. Hope that works! Would love to hear your feedback
Celine Bell 
I asked a similar Q and annoyingly can't find it - the answers were good. Perhaps try an earlier bedtime (counter intuitive I know) Don't make getting up worth their while - so no breakfast or telly and just a calm, dark-ish environment Keep prioritising daytime naps. We also left our 1 year old baby once screaming at 4 am (disclaimer, it was because the older one had been sick over ALL OF HIS ROOM, gross, and needed both parents to sort him out). He settled himself very quickly, and then learned to sleep in til 5.30 am, which seemed like such a lie in. I think sometimes two minutes screaming for extra sleep is worth it even though it breaks me, because they NEED that sleep. NB this comes from someone who tried controlled crying and couldn't stop sobbing myself, so I didn't stick with it. But whatever works for you... GOOD LUCK, and remember, it's just a (terrible, awful, soul destroying) phase.
Mike Tantrum 
I believe this is the question thread that Celine Bell is referring too. She's right, some good answers, including one from one of our Parenting Brain experts (a professional sleep-training coach). https://tantrum.xyz/parentingBrain/question/14
Anonymous 
We had the same problem with DD2, DD1 was a great sleeper. We didn't do anything different with DD2, she used to wake up at least twice a night and be up at 0430 without fail. Tried everything! Cuddling her was the only thing that worked and we always remained in her room (arm chair swiftly put in there!) to not give stimulus of going into our bed or downstairs. Just kept the room dark as it was and cuddled her in her sleepsuit. No talking, just laid her head on my chest and she'd dose (not asleep!) for up to another hour. We were "chair shaped" for months! Finally she started sleeping longer at night when she started napping for longer in the day! Sleep induces sleep apparently?!? However, think it was just she got older ....... so hard to say but it does get easier. Hang on in there!
Anonymous 
My now one year old woke up between 4:30 and 5:30 am every morning for 3 months until she was 11 and a half months old. When she woke we gave her a bottle and she slept until 7 or 8. Until one day, she just grew out of it. Let it ride, they'll figure it out.
Ohlookapigeon 
We had the same thing. Tried everything. Lit-er--ally everything. In the end our daughter just grew out of it.

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